It is STILL cold and dreary here in Idaho. We are lucky to have an afternoon of sunshine then the wind, rain and snow sets in. I am still hoping for spring! Be sure to leave a comment on the blog post below for your chance to win a FREE Expressions Card Kit from me! I am going to choose a winner this weekend!
Tomorrow is a big day for Katelyn. One I have been dreading. One I forgot about until the "note" came home from school a couple of weeks ago. The note that has generated all sorts of discussions between a whole lot of fifth graders!
Do you know where I am going with this? Yep... the maturity film is being shown tomorrow and parents are invited to attend. Ummm... duh... of course I am going to attend. I think the note should be a bit more bold and REQUIRE parents to attend! Talking to my daughter about the "birds and the bees" is certainly something that I am going to be a part of!
Let me back up a bit. First of all, I realize that this might be a sensitive subject and maybe one that you won't want to continue reading about but if you are a parent.... if you have kids the same age as mine.. then you have been there, done that. You have had the talk. If you have teenage boys... you tend to have the talk A LOT and remind them of what they have been taught since day one! What our values are! Where we stand on the issue!
The boys were Katelyn's age when the subject first was brought up. I remember thinking and knowing that it would soon be time to start educating them. Darren and I strongly believe that the information they receive needs to come from US! I am naive to think that they don't talk among friends? No.. I am not. But.. I do know and know from experience that when it comes to the heart of their questions, they will come to you as a parent and trust what you tell them.
So.. with that said... they were about Katelyn's age when they came home from school and boldly asked what..... ummm.. you know.. the "s" word was. It took me back a bit. I asked them why they wanted to know that and I was told that kids at school were talking. Darn kids! AGH! I told them that this was a very important subject that we needed to talk about and that when Dad got home we would sit down and talk.
I called Darren informed him that HIS children had a few questions and since HE had the same parts as they did HE needed to be a part of this conversation so give some thought about how we were going to handle that one!
And we thought.
I blame my parents for my anxiety over this subject matter. I don't remember having the "talk" as a kid. I think that times have changed and when I was growing up it wasn't something that parents really made a point of discussing with their children. I knew that I could talk to them if I had questions but I never really did. I was raised with five sisters and a very modest Dad so the whole boy thing just wasn't something I gave much thought too. Seriously.
So... when Darren came home that night we decided that it would be best to talk to the boys as individuals instead of together so that they didn't giggle and make faces at each other. Which they would do.
I remember calling Teagan up first. Telling him that we needed to talk to him. His first question was "What did I do wrong?'" I thought.. great... I am a terrible Mom. My son thinks he is in trouble and all we want to do is talk to him about sex!
I remember asking him what had happened at school. That turned into about a 30 minute conversation with Teagan. He was being his typical self and made a few jokes... had a few questions.. but really not that big of a deal. We didn't go into great detail. It is not needed. Just find out what they know, or think they know, answer questions, talk about it. No big deal.
We then called Michael up. Michael informed us that he was NEVER going to do that. He was NOT going to have children so it was not needed. He had a few more questions then Teagan so then Darren and I were worried that he knew more then Teagan so we had to call Teagan back up and talk to him again!
We reminded both of them that this was a very private, personal thing to talk about and that they needed to come to us. The last thing I needed was some Mom calling me up the next day because my son had told her son the BIG news. The told us that they would probably forget all that we had said so not to worry and off they went to build their legos.
Fast forward a few years.
Katelyn lives in her own little world. I wish I could bottle up her innocence. She has not asked any questions and seriously has no clue. Life is about her friends, all the animals she loves, her collections of anything and everything, what she can make, what she can give her friends, her brothers and her Dad.
So the subject of this FILM has caused her great stress. The questions have started. Poor girl.
I am freaked. With the boys... I guess I was freaked but knew that they are boys... they start to wonder... they joke about it... luckily they are very close to Darren and I hope and pray they know they can talk to him. They are 16!
But with Katelyn, it is just different. I can't take it! She can't be growing up so fast! How am I going to handle this? How am I going to survive her being a teenager?
Help! Advice! How did my Mom survive 6 girls? Crazy!
The above picture is Katelyn with her best buddy Hannah. I count my blessings every day for that little girl. She has been such a great example to Katelyn and is a NO DRAMA child. Love it. Love having her in our home and LOVE the family she comes from.
Wish me luck! Tomorrow will be a day filled with questions!